THE TRIP
Four Stories & a breakdown of the dissolution of self...
A man takes a psychedelic trip and encounters terror with the idea that he is dying. What is actually happening?
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When a man takes a psychedelic and experiences terror at the idea that he is dying, the experience can feel utterly real and overwhelming. But what is actually happening?
Let’s unpack it in layers — physiologically, psychologically, and existentially.
🧠 Neurologically
Under psychedelics (like psilocybin, LSD, or DMT), normal brain patterns are disrupted — particularly in the default mode network (DMN), the part associated with ego, identity, and self-referential thinking.
As this network quiets, the boundaries that keep the sense of "I" intact begin to blur or dissolve.
The mind interprets this as: “I am dying.”
But in reality, the body is not dying. What’s being destabilized is the constructed identity — the mental structure that says "this is who I am."
😨 Psychologically
The terror comes not from physical death, but from the loss of control, the loss of self-image, and the collapse of the narrative “me.”
The thoughts might go:
“I can’t come back from this.”
“I’m disappearing.”
“Something is ending and I don’t know what I’ll be when it’s over.”
This is often called ego death — not literal death, but the felt sense that what you thought you were is dissolving.
And because the ego equates itself with survival, it interprets this collapse as mortal danger.
But again: what’s actually dying is a mental construct — not the person, not the body, not awareness itself.
🌌 Existentially
Here’s the deeper truth:
What’s dying in that moment is the illusion of separation.
The illusion of control.
The illusion of being a fixed, solid “someone.”
And what remains — if the fear is met and allowed — is often spaciousness, stillness, or a profound sense of beingthat was never born and cannot die.
In many awakening stories, this moment of “death” becomes a doorway.
But if resisted, it becomes a loop of terror.
🔍 So, what is actually happening?
The structure of identity is destabilizing.
The mind interprets this as literal death.
The nervous system floods with fear in response to the loss of self.
But what’s being threatened is not life — it’s the imagined self.
If allowed, this can be a gateway into direct recognition of what remains when the self isn’t held together:
Awareness. Presence. Being.
🫱 Gentle reframe for someone in it:
You are not dying.
What’s dying is the belief in who you thought you were.
Let it go — the one who resists it isn’t real anyway.
What remains is what you truly are — and it was never in danger.
Here is a short story, told from within the experience — a man undergoing a psychedelic journey, facing the terror of death, and discovering what is actually happening beneath it:
The Dying
He felt it before he saw it —
a shift, sudden and deep,
like the floor of his being dropping out.
At first it was subtle.
A ripple through the spine.
Colors too alive.
Breath too loud.
And then it was there.
The thought: “I’m dying.”
It didn’t come like an idea.
It came like a storm.
His hands began to sweat.
His chest tightened.
His heartbeat pounded like war drums in a canyon.
Panic.
His mind raced:
“I took too much. I’ve gone too far. I won’t come back.”
He tried to stand — his legs forgot how.
Tried to breathe — the air thickened.
Tried to hold on — but to what?
Reality itself was melting.
Memories crumbled.
Time folded in on itself.
And “he” — the man with the name, the past, the plans —
was slipping.
“Oh God… this is it. This is death.”
And then something strange happened.
He didn’t die.
He kept falling… but there was no bottom.
Just space.
Just the terror, suspended.
And a voice — not external, not imagined — more like a knowing.
Not in words, but somehow felt.
What’s dying… is not you.
What’s dying is the idea of you.
Let it.
He paused.
The fear was still there — buzzing, crackling, begging for escape.
But another current had begun to move beneath it.
Something… steady.
Vast.
Unafraid.
He watched as images flashed:
his face, his job, his roles, his regrets.
All trying to hold themselves together.
And they couldn't.
They were dissolving.
And when he didn’t run — when he let them dissolve —
what was left was not absence.
It was presence.
Wide.
Still.
Radiant in its ordinariness.
No edges.
No voice saying “I survived.”
No one left to claim the insight.
Just this:
Breath rising and falling.
The sound of wind in the trees.
A warmth behind the eyes.
A stillness that held everything.
It had been here the whole time —
beneath the fear,
beneath the grasping,
beneath the story of “me.”
He laughed then. Softly.
Not because he was high.
Not because he understood anything.
But because he had stopped running.
He wasn’t dead.
He wasn’t even born.
Just this.
This clear, open, undeniable being.
And for once, it didn’t need a name.
Here is a follow-up story of integration the next day
The Morning After
He woke slowly.
The light filtering through the curtain was soft, almost apologetic.
The air was still. The room was quiet.
Everything looked the same.
And yet, everything was different.
Not in the way he imagined it might be — no golden aura, no thunderclap of enlightenment.
Just… absence.
The absence of something that used to press against every moment.
A subtle tightness. A constant whisper: “Be someone. Get somewhere.”
It was gone.
Not dead — just seen through. Like a mirage after water is found.
He made tea, the way he always did.
But this time, there was no sense of waiting for life to begin after the kettle clicked off.
No inner dialogue about the day ahead.
Just steam rising.
Hands moving.
The quiet clink of the cup.
Being.
It was unnervingly simple.
Memories from the night before flickered in and out —
The terror. The falling. The voice without sound.
“What’s dying is not you.”
The words still pulsed through him like an echo from the bones.
And now, in this soft daylight, he saw what they meant.
He hadn’t lost anything real.
What had collapsed was the scaffolding.
The story.
The reflex to name and narrate and manage every breath.
What remained was nothing extraordinary — just what was already here.
He stepped outside.
The world didn’t greet him with fanfare.
No one bowed. No birds whispered his name.
A car passed. A child cried. A leaf spun down from a tree.
And it was perfect.
Not because it was beautiful — although it was.
But because it asked for nothing.
For once, the world wasn’t a mirror for his worth or a stage for his identity.
It just was.
And he, somehow, was not separate from it.
There were still thoughts. Still emotions.
The mind tried to return to its patterns — narrating, labeling, comparing.
But now, those thoughts landed in open space.
They didn’t stick like they used to.
He noticed one arise:
“Maybe I should try to hold onto this state.”
And then another:
“Maybe this is the beginning of something…”
He smiled.
Even that — the urge to possess the freedom — was just another wave.
And like all waves…
it passed.
He didn't call it awakening.
He didn’t call it anything.
Because naming it would make it smaller.
What mattered wasn’t the event.
What mattered was this:
He no longer needed to hold life together.
He no longer needed to be someone in order to be.
He was home.
And home was… everywhere.
Even in this.
Even in the dishes in the sink.
Even in the nothing-special day ahead.
The next week..
The Return
It didn’t happen all at once.
At first, everything stayed quiet.
Not silent, but spacious.
Like someone had cleaned the windows of his perception and left the room.
He could still think, still feel, still function —
but without the old tightness.
There was no one to impress, no future to chase, no past to defend.
Just life, moving — direct, unfiltered, enough.
And then, slowly… it began.
Not dramatically.
More like gravity.
A casual conversation where someone misunderstood him.
A familiar tone in a coworker’s voice.
A small failure. A cold silence. A comparison.
And something inside tensed.
“They don’t see me.”
“I should explain myself.”
“I need to fix how they think of me.”
Old echoes.
Old contracts with identity.
Still intact.
At first, he noticed it with clarity.
Ah — the old story.
The impulse to defend.
To rebuild the scaffolding.
To be someone again.
But the noticing didn’t always stop it.
Some days, he caught himself halfway through a monologue — justifying, defending, positioning — and paused.
“Why am I trying so hard to hold up this image?”
But other times, he only noticed after.
After the conversation.
After the tension.
After the quiet shame.
And that’s when the doubt crept in:
“Maybe nothing really changed.”
“Maybe it was just the drug.”
“Maybe I imagined the whole thing.”
But something deeper didn’t buy it.
Because even now — even in the middle of reactivity — there was a kind of light in the background. A space that hadn’t closed. A seeing that hadn’t forgotten.
He realized then:
The shift wasn’t in becoming perfect.
It was in no longer being completely lost in the illusion.
Now, even when the old self showed up —
with its defensiveness, its shame, its hunger for approval —
it was seen.
Sometimes after the fact.
Sometimes in the heat of it.
Occasionally, even before it landed.
But always, more and more…
it was not believed.
He stopped trying to make it look like progress.
Stopped expecting peace to be permanent.
Stopped judging the return of habits as failure.
Instead, he started listening more closely —
to the part of him that still felt like it had to fight, explain, prove.
He met it like an old friend who didn’t know the war was over.
And sometimes, just in that meeting,
the armor fell away.
Not because he made it fall —
but because he didn’t need it anymore.
So now, weeks later, the real integration begins.
Not in how often he feels clear,
but in how gently he can return to clarity after forgetting.
Not in how awakened he sounds,
but in how honestly he meets the moments that still trigger contraction.
This, he understands now,
is the ongoing path:
Not avoiding the reappearance of the self-story —
but seeing through it, again and again,
until even the seeing is no longer effort,
just being.
And some days, that looks like freedom.
And other days, it looks like breathing through shame.
But in both,
there is life.
Unfolding.
Uncontrolled.
Enough.
Meeting an old friend from before
The Mirror
They hadn’t planned to see each other.
It just happened —
a familiar face in an unexpected place.
Their eyes met for a second too long to pretend it hadn’t happened.
“Hey,” the other person said. Casual. Measured.
But the air between them stirred with history.
They hadn’t spoken in years.
The person standing across from them had known a different version —
one still trying to become something.
Still building and defending an identity.
Still performing, subtly or not, in every interaction.
Back then, they had needed to be seen in a certain way —
as wise, as kind, as deep, as capable —
and when that image wasn’t reflected back, it had hurt.
Now here they were again, face to face,
and something inside stirred.
Not panic, not drama — just an old, familiar tightening.
A faint whisper:
“Say something meaningful.”
“Be impressive.”
“Prove you’ve changed.”
But something else in them — something quieter and steadier — simply observed.
They didn’t follow the script.
They didn’t resist it either.
They let it play in the background like a radio on low volume,
while presence stayed in the foreground.
The other person asked, “What have you been up to?”
They answered honestly. “Mostly unlearning.”
The other laughed. “That sounds… vague.”
“Yeah,” they said, smiling. “It is.”
And it was.
Because how do you explain that the person the other once knew —
the one who worked so hard to manage perception —
no longer felt like the center of the story?
How do you explain that the need to be understood, validated, or remembered has softened — not disappeared, but loosened its grip?
So they didn’t explain.
They just let the moment be what it was —
a small conversation between two lives
with no obligation to become anything more.
They talked for a few minutes — lightly, kindly — about work, mutual acquaintances, the surface details that keep things moving.
And beneath it, a deeper stillness.
Not between them — within.
There was no striving to be seen.
No steering of the narrative.
No trying to repair the past.
Just breath.
Just presence.
Just this moment, as it is.
When it was time to go, there was a soft goodbye.
A hug, or maybe just a nod.
A shared smile that said more than the words had.
“You seem… lighter,” the other person said.
They paused. “Yeah. That seems to be happening.”
And that was it.
As they walked away, they noticed something:
The moment had passed —
no weight, no residue, no story left behind.
Even with the old reflexes still flickering now and then,
there had been nothing to defend.
The “self” that used to brace in such encounters…
was no longer at the center.
And in that absence, there was space.
Space to relate without agenda.
Space to be without proving.
Space to meet the past without becoming it again.
This, they realized, is the quiet freedom of returning —
not to who they were,
but to the moment itself.
Not special.
Just real.
Just now.
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